I know what it feels like to wonder if my family would scatter and lose touch. I've driven away from a college campus and felt anxious that my child would never call home or ever want to be around me again. I've experienced conflict with my children that I feared was beyond repair.

My intentions were good.  I believed God could heal the brokenness in our family.  But because I was afraid of losing them, I hung on tighter.   I tried to manage their behavior and even their emotions.  And without meaning to, I made things worse.  

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Guess what happened, though.  God DID heal the brokenness in our family but not until he started healing me first! (read how below)

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Today, while our family is far from perfect,  I can tell you that when I shifted my focus from controlling my children to managing myself, I saw my kids begin to respect me and communicate more. It hasn't been easy but the relationships I have with them now are so worth the work.

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